How to manage anger?

I'm really mad right now. I need some way to manage my anger without physically harming someone or breaking anything important. I'm mad and I need to let it out, like yelling, but I don't want people to hear me yell. I also want to hit something or break something, but I'd get into trouble.

Why am I mad? Because the f*cking counselors at my school f*cked up my perfect schedule. They switched my 2nd Period to P.E. Wtf, P.E. in the morning where I live is f*cking freezing. Then my 4th Period became English Honors with some guy who makes us write a page about some stupid quote almost every single day, and we have so much friggin work compared to the English class I transferred out of. In fact, my schedule should have been perfect from the first day of school. The friking counselors didn't give me a frikin 6th period so to compensate, they just stuck me with some random english techer for 6th period. I even had my papers signed from my 8th grade teacher saying that I should go into honors. I'm the only one who didn't get put into honors who should have been. THAT'S SO F*CKING LAME AND THE SCHOOL IS SO POOR IT CAN'T HIRE SOME WORTHY STAFF MEMBERS INSTEAD OF SOME CHEAP WORKERS.

Sorry, I just had to let it out, I feel a bit better but I still need to do something!!!!!

 

get a stress ball

 

That Was Absolutely No Help At All!! WOW NOW MY CAPSLOCK IS DISABLE IM EVEN MADDER NOW!
WOW NOW IT WORKS...

 

Lol deep breaths, dude, deep breaths. It's high school. We all know it's retarded. Learn to play the system and get through alive.

Only the strong survive to college.

 

You could yell into a pillow. Listen to angry music. Play angry music (Whenever I'm pissed [rarely], I always try and channel my PO'ed'ness into a bassline or something). Realize that pretty much anything that makes you angry isn't worth your time. Realize it could be worse. Smoke pot. Go jogging/walking. Get some cookies and warm milk (Be extra careful not to spill the milk). Eat some comfort food/figure out what your comfort food is. Punch a pillow/mattress/stuffed animal (NOT a real one)


That's all I can think of at the moment.

 

What Jon said. Take deep breaths, then go play sports, or videogames, or watch a movie, or listen to music, etc. etc. Don't let anything like that get to you, you only have a couple years and you'll basically be free.

 

I would suggest the exercise as well. I run and bike all the time and it definitely helps me relax.

 

Videogames are bad for anger. I mean, you're pissed off, you don't notice that grenade that Nazi threw at you, you get blown to shreds, you're not gonna react well.

 

The only thing that helps me control my anger is laughing, like Fenix's joke, that made me laugh and lesson my anger a bit. I've tried taking deep breaths a lot of times, and it doesn't help. I mean I'm really mad because I'm stuck with this sh*tty schedule my whole Freshman year. My high school has given me the impression that it is incompentent and that they are the reason why over 50% of their seniors go to some bad community college. I mean I just happened to get the Geometry teacher who has a crazy filipino accent that is hard to understand and when I asked to switch the counselor said there was no more room. Wtf! Then I first get an easy english honors teacher then I get the hard as hell honors teacher with a class full of stupid looking people! I CAN'T STOP BEING ANGRY RAGHGHGHGHGH AND I CAN'T PLAY VIDEOGAMES BECAUSE MY DAD WON'T LET ME JUST BECAUSE I GOT A FRIKIN B+ IN MATH IN 8TH GRADE! I DONT HAVE ANY MUSIC AND I DONT HAVE AN INSTRUMENT AND IM NOT ALLOWED TO DO ANYTHING ELSE UNTIL I FINISH MY HOMEWORK AND SINCE I HAVE 3 FULL PAGES OF RESPONSE TO THE DAMN QUOTE IM PROBABLY GOING TO BE UP TILL 2 OR 3.

 

You're clearly doing this the wrong way. You're working AGAINST the system. Let me give you a piece of advice I wish someone had told me my freshman year of HS. Work with the system. Befriend the teachers, don't piss them off. Pick and choose your classes carefully beforehand and sit in the counselor's office until they give you the right class. Buddy up to these people and you can get what you want.

I mean look at me, my Sophomore through Senior year I had no first period class because I took online courses that I wasn't supposed to take, I had no 6th or 7th either because I convinced them to move my lunch and classes so that I could "go to class at the college" early. At which point I promptly headed home. While all the other students weren't allowed to leave campus at any time, I had a free pass to drive on and off campus at any time of the day. I had teachers who allowed me to simply not show up for class because I had an A. I mean... seriously, if you're smart you can pull these things.

Example: Good at computers? Go down to the media center (library FTW) and talk to the media people. Fix their computer **** because I'm telling you they're incompetent and would be glad for your help. They can also get you out of class!!!! Furthermore, you can tell them about your scheduling problems and they will help you get the classes you need.

It's all about playing the system. Use your intelligence to get it to work for you, not against you. Of course they're incompetent. Why the hell do you think these people are working at a high school? Because they have a doctorate? Don't think so.

High Schools really are a sand trap from which only the ones who utilize their intelligence properly escape. Heed my words, dude, I had a great time in High School. PLAY THE SYSTEM.

Oh, and join Cross Country because it's an awesome sport.

 

punch the walls until your knuckles bleed
while punching, it removes some anger
while bleeding, it replaces anger with pain

but then pain would only make you angry.... gawd i hate paradox

 

I concur with Jon. Remember that the people who work there are there to serve you. Don;t let them know that you know though. Work the teachers, work the counselors, work security and work the principal and you can pretty much do anything that doesn't explicitly violate some rule or another. Plus if you have them in your pocket if you do get in trouble you might just get off easy because they know you would never do such a thing.


As for the anger issues what I do is simply not let myself be bother by assholes and idiots. i feel they shouldn't be treated with annoyance but should instead be manipulated and manuvered into the spot you want them in.

As wierd as this sounds the best way to deal with anger is not to let yourself become angry. It doesn't suit much purpose.

 

The problem is telling them why I want to move classes. If I say my English Honors class is too hard they will think I need a normal class when in reality, I just don't like writing a page everyday and would rather just read Romeo and Juliet like we were going to until I switched out of that class (That class was also honors.) Also I already tried to switch my accented teacher but they said there was no room.

How am I supposed to befriend the counselors? And I did pick my classes carefully, it's just that they didn't f*cking comply with IT! AGHHH! And the principal will not just allow teachers to let students skip classes...

IM STILL MAD AND I STILL NEED TO BREAK SOMETHING, PILLOWS AREN'T HARD ENOUGH. MY STUFFED ANIMALS WOULD NEVER FORGIVE ME IF I HURT THEM TOO!

Why does all the bad thing always happen to me. And I hate it when people say there is always someone suffering more than me. Well, would I rather be starving than get a terrible education? YES! What's the point of education if your going to get straight F's anyways?! RAGH.

 

Dude. You think your schedule got screwed. I signed up for Chem I. They put me in Chem III Honors because I scored high on the testing the year before. My father designs insulation for rockets (He's a rocket scientist >.>), he's working on a Masters in Chem, he couldn't figure out half the **** I was doing.

I took Conditioning (Easy PE), it was full, they stuck me in goddamn Ballroom Dance.

So, later on, I just started ditching (That messed me up, but that's not what this is about). I had a choice, go to Community Service, or go to another school. I talked to my counselor about it, asked what I should do, she flat out LIED to me about the other school.

Also, breaking stuff is stupid.

 

This is worse, if you don't know how old I am, I'm twelve... A twelve year old writing a full page on a quote. Imagine it. It's hard. Fora kid like me, I just want to have fun. Not do stupid work. Some work is fine but this is too much.

 

*Old person time*

When I was your age, I had to do that too. My English teach (Mrs. Christiansen, she was like over 9000 years old) had us do a page from free writing a day.

And dude.....School =/= fun. Ever. Accept that. Move on. Get it over with.

 

Appropriate quote time! "Imagine how happy you'd be if you lost absolutely everything you had... And then got it all back again".

If you really want to rage without breaking anything, take a tennis ball, go outside, and peg it against the fence, hard... And repeatedly. It basically goes along the same principles as exercising to relieve stress, but is much more violent. Also, the bang it makes against the fence can be very rewarding.

About your workload, that really doesn't actually sound like an awful lot. My sister's a little older than you, and she's doing about that much. Even more at times. Sometimes she even has to work on Friday arvo's just to get her work for the weekend done in time for Monday. I know what I'm about to say won't help, but if you're annoyed that you're workload's increased so much, it just means that you've had it easy for the past while. To give a stereotypical gamer analogy that we'll all understand, just because something's being nerfed, it doesn't mean it's now bad, it just means it was even better before.

 

I don't understand how a page a day is a lot of work. Wait until you're in college...

Also how are you 12 in high school? Does that seem off to anyone else?

Between Orgo Chem, Physics, Tech Writing, Telecomm classes and my MCAT review, I don't know where I get time anymore. Be thankful .

 

It's off all right. You'd have to skip 2 or 3 grades for that. That's... not normal.

 

thats probably a reason why it seems like so much work, your a little young for your grade...

it will get easier your just not used to it

its creepy how well you did that...