I was getting worried for my friend who started drinking. He would get drunk and go totally crazy and apes**t. One time his mother told me he couldnt get outer his bed for a day....now tahts a long smash. So yeah, one day i told him about his drinking, and i said that you shoudnt drink, drinking is bad, your gna ruin your life etc etc. And outer nowhere, he just raged at me and said "who the f*** do you think you are judging me like that?" Usually my friend is a calm, nice, out-going person...maybe abit agressive at times, but this day he was really bad. Anywayz ill get to the point; he raged at me two days ago, and he hasnt talked to me ever since. So im just wondering...is judging bad? Even if you do something that your friend does, does that make YOU a hypocrite?? When can you judge? How far should you go? comments, discuss, thoughts, wateva...i just wanna know if i went too far.
I voice my opinion in a mild way once, maybe twice, but then I leave them to their own lives, whatever they're doing. I don't have the right to do any more than this without them specifically asking me to. I say you tried to help. If he as a sensible person of legal age doesn't see how bad drinking could get (it can become bad over time... but drinking is not bad by default) then he has to deal with the consequences on their own, and you should have a clear conscience no problem.
Dude, that is one hell of a hang over. This happens to people that get hangovers when they go to parties and such. And How long ago was this? Have you tried talking to him? You have to realize, that people who drink, generally are easy to piss off when they're sober. What exactly did you say to him, and at what point did you notice him start to get angry? Just give him time man, get some going that you two can go do together. And Judge? You don't judge someone. Even if they are your friend, you don't judge them. You have your feelings about what they did, but you don't judge them. *Edited because the quoted was more than what was typed. *throws kurai on the ground*
But wouldnt it be better if you judged them and cared for their life then them just stuffing it up? I dont know, maybe i was being too hypocritical. I talked to him about this when he was in a normal state of mind. Not drunk, not drugged, etc.
I don't think you're judging him at all. Looks like you're just showing a genuine concern for your friend's health and from your post, it seems that he's being a bit self-defensive.
Yeah i think that you should just tell them in a mild way but ultimately he should make the final decision since perhaps he wants to ruin his life but its up to him... Personally i think its nice to have a friend like you that warns him of his drinking problem but some people would get offended and stuff thinking that you are like telling them what to do... Some will even want to do the complete opposite of what you have told them ... I agree with kuvasz about this
I think you did the right thing by trying to confront him about this. I have had friends and family who had an addiction to alcohol. Usually they do it out of depression, and I think you should see if his mother can talk him into getting counseling. What you are doing is not judging its being concerned for a friend. Alcoholism is a serious problem and if he is showing signs that hes become addicted to it then you did the right thing. It's not easy trying to get people who have this problem to admit it. I would suggest trying to contact people at local AA meetings and see if they can offer you some advice.
