Confused and don't know what to do.

::waving my hand::do u hear me?
and consult a counsellor.

 

Ignoring them isn't the right thing to do. Neither is directly responding to them. I had the exact same problem as you for alot of years. I wasn't popular at all, and didn't know how to fix it. In elementary school, i would just stand against the wall at recess, all alone.

It sucked, because I was really overweight, and the only thing that mattered to me was video games. Every hour of my day would revolve on video games, believe it or not. Really sad stuff. I would hang out with no one, I'd sit in my basement, and just waste hour after hour on a video game. It would never give anything back to me, but I enjoyed it for the moment, and that's all that mattered to me.

I went along like this until grade 8, when something changed for me. I was hugely overweight, and had the social skills of a leper. When on the first day of Grade 8 art class, second semester, I got seated next to one of the most gorgeous, popular girls in the grade. I was just madly in love with this girl, ha ha. Looking back it was just a crush, but to me then, we were bound to be together. Anyways, I started talking to her, and we became friends. She invited me to chill with her group. Most of the people still didn't like me, but I cold care less, I was hanging out with her, and that was all I needed.

I never did get around to asking her out. She found some guy, and they're going on two years straight now. That thing long outlived my crush Moving right along, I started to make friends with the group, but I never really got comfortable with most of them. I don't dislike them, but they just weren't they type of people I would chill with. Mind you, at that point, anything beat standing alone at the wall.

Basically, two HUGE things happened from there. One, I joined a gym. Man, if you want to lose weight, diet alone wont do it. You have to exercise. It's important. It can be very intimidating, but 30 minutes on the eliptical, followed by weight lifting will not only melt the fat like hell, it will build you. You'll be a tank. During the summer, I joined the YMCA. After only two months of going every second day, I lost alot of fat. When I got back to school, 26 people commented on how much weight I've lost. I counted.

Two, I started to play guitar. From hanging out with the group I was for the last 1 and a half years, I gained some social skills, and my real personality began to shine through. I met one kid who also played guitar, and we became friends. I started to chill with him, and his group. I've never felt as accepted before as I do now.

That's my story, up until now at least. I don't know if any of it helped you, but what I'm trying to say is, only you can help you. No one gave anything to me to get me where I am. I Joined the Gym. I became more social. Just do your best, and look for people who will accept you.

 

Dude Im not trying to sound rude but thats life! You cannot have everything perfect, some people may be better then others. Just think of this, Your better then alot of people, like the poor kids in africa that have next to no home and next to no food nor family, just be greatful that You have a home, people who care for You like friends and family and Youll be alright.

 

Sure no one has a perfect life, but I think Rex deserves better. No one should have to live with parents that are abusive. I'm not sure what makes some parents think it is ok to be mean to their kids, especially since kids are practically defenceless against their parents.

 

True Eon, but they say this. "Go on Phone the cops I don't care, leave if you want. It doesn't affect me" So its gay. They are just stupid. The problem WAS over until my sister tempts them, and talks into it to make the problem fire up.

Not fat... Just people keep saying everything is, I don't know it just getting to me.

 

Ok well I typed a huge response but then accidentally hit a link and it erased what I had typed...

So here is the short version. find solid friends that will stand the test of time, regardless of who they are. If I had embraced my geekiness in high school I would have had 4 more years of fun with my current friends (I'm three years out of high school). All the "friends" I had in high school are no more.

And here is my key to keeping my head up. Rex and anybody else who gets put down, sh*t on, or rejected, should pay attention to this part. Use this mindset:
"I am the sh*t. If he/she doesn't like me/doesn't want to get to know me/be my friend/turned me down, IT IS THEIR LOSS."

If your parents don't care about you, they do not realize how great a person you are.
If the kid makes fun of you, he is up sh*t creek without a paddle, because he/she just lost a valuable asset: YOU as a FRIEND.
If he/she rejects you, it's really not your problem. It's his/hers. If he/she chooses to be with someone else or alone instead of with you, it is a MAJOR flaw in their judgment. Why would you want to be with someone that doesn't value you for how awesome you are?

 

Your pretty confident Nikzad

 

I got rejected once. This girl kept complaining to me about how her boyfriend was a jerk. I talked to her about it. I told her I liked her and she stuck to her jerk like glue. I felt crappy for a while before I realized that she was a tard for choosing him over me. And stupidity is a big turnoff for me.

Confidence is good, just don't be too confident. If you are, you're no longer confident and move into "arrogant." In which case you are a jerk yourself

 

Oh wow... I never thought of that, I have tried all sorts of things, and well... none has worked. This is like one of the most valuable things I have ever seen.

 

Yeah I hate arrogant ppl, I have dropped lots of friends on account of there arrogance.

That and out of fear that when I tell them that I am bi, they will completely reject me, so I distanced myself from these ppl.

 

Well you know if you really feel that I'm sorry I was just surprised. I didn't know, also I have not talked to anyone in my life that I knew was a bi. I'm sorry if I hurt you in anyway. Also one of my friends Ted, I just found out hes Bi as well. I'm ok as long as its a friend relationship, not you know any sort of sexual stuff.

I'm sorry Dark if I had hurt your feelings in any way, so please don't remove yourself from our friendship. Sorry if I hurt your feelings.

 

I meant ppl IRL d00d

Finally, that apology was long over due.

Your still making it sound as if we bi ppl are not human with the "a bi" thing d00d.

 

Well sorry I usually speak that I'm a human, or I'm a Gamer, or I'm a joker. So sorry about that too, its just my way of speaking lol.

 

anyway,i think u should try motivation books and counsellor

 

Hard stuff man, i had a similar situation back home, but what i did is just hate my parents (not anymore, now i just don't care), but trust me, once you're 18 and done with the school, life will become A LOT better.
You'll have to go find help with people you trust (if any), OR just try and suffer through it until you're legally an adult.

What's funny is, i also thought about suicide at a certain point of my growing up, but i decided i don't want to fuck up my life just because my father is a complete retard.
Life's good.

 

i have a message for you, rex, that can only be explained through parody

 

Parody?

 

Hmmm....
I used to be really homophobic. A real bad one. I got really POd and gays and bis and thought they should burn at the stake. It was because of all the things they were taking from me. they were disrupting my way of knowledge, my rational world I had come to know.

But I found out two of my best friends were bisexual last year and then it hit me what an ass I was. I was judging people before even meeting them, which is something I preach 100% against. I had to really apologize to all my friends, especially because they had gay friends and bi friends. I felt like a huge ass.

I got disowned as a friend many times because I wasn't good enough. Using that mindest that "i'm too good" or "i'm the best" never works with me. anyone who was my friend totally deserved my loyalty because they were willing to hang out with me and tolerate my existance. I've always had a low self image and because of that I got walked over. But then this girl really back-stabbed me and I took on the "i am worth something," approach. i'm better than i used to be, but not a whole lot.

All i can say, is that i have no issues with people like that, and it's not cool to judge people like that. I know how it feels cuz I'm a major nerd and idiot and smartass. And if they don't want to be your friends, who cares. Just pick people who can like you for who you are. just be happy is my advice ^-^

 

I always found that it wasn't good to be too shy and stuff. You shouldn't ever let anyone walk over you. Be aggressive. I'm not saying you should walk all over other people, but you should know how to put up a fight. Don't let them just ignore you and push you around. Do something to make them stop. Just don't do nothing. Have a sense of pride in yourself. Just whatever you do, know how to stand up for yourself.

 

I don't stand up for myself. I onyl stand up for my friends. I get walked over all the time, but I'm used to it by now. I have the backbone of a shark and jsut flex with stuff, I don't put many other people down unless they make my friends feel bad. My friends say I have screwed up logic, which I probably do.