Love Life

I'll pm you for privacy's sake Tiger

edit: thanks btw DW :good:

 

Well, I'll say my bit about women. I believe in love, like really sweet romantic love where you just fall head over heels for each other, but I will say that it's a truly rare thing from my experience. I think the best thing to do when going into relationships is to really pay attention to the other person, and this is an amazingly hard thing to do for some reason, because most of the time you tend to bend or warp what their behavior is like with your own bias or needs. And some things are just sooo damn subtle.

For example, my first girlfriend, Skina, (all modesty aside) was VERY into me, and being that she was my first, I was very happy to receive attention. She made me feel like I was the world to her, which when you're a inexperienced dipsh*t, you don't suspect anything and just bask in it for all it's worth. That as about 6 months of bliss. Then well... when I had to leave for college, things fell apart, and I'll only say that there were numerous cases of her being unfaithful. Broke my heart. I thought to myself, "why would a girl who was SO into me do some'n like that?" And well, in retrospect years later, I realized that she was clingy for a reason. She had come from a troubled household, bad experiences with her father, etc. I know this seems like a lot to sum up bout a person and their reasons for doing so in one paragraph but I've got a lot more thought into this than I can or should provide to a forum post, lol.

But anyway, the point is, I actually kinda wanna give some of you guys a heads up just from personal experience. I'm not trying to be cynical or turn any of you into cynics. Like I said I do believe in that wonderful love stuff but it takes time to trust someone and you have to be patient. I'm not a relationship guru or some "masta playah" or anything. I'm just sharing what I know cuz I think about this stuff a lot on my own time and some of you might find it valid.

My current girlfriend, she's my third real girlfriend, and we dated during my sophomore year of college, broke up for the summer, went out and searched cuz we wanted to acknowledge our lack of knowledge and meet up later at the end of the road. Which we did a year later cuz apparently we looked and found out we were very happy with each other. THAT'S the kind of love I believe in now, the kind you can count and depend on. I actually don't think you can have love without trust, cuz then u'r just in love with a fantasy version of the person and not their true self.

So yea, that's that. Carolyn, the current one, is the one I had that one conversation with about how SC2 will be my life cuz I'm asian and how she said she was just gonna override that obsession with my strong affinity for ass.

So heres a not-provocative clean pic of it for sh*ts 'n giggles!

Yea, ok there's the real truth. The novel I posted was just for minerals, and it's really just all about the ass. LOL, j/p.

[img width=450 height=322]http://tinyurl.com/2do9zk[/img]

 

thanks for the words of wisdom Archlimit

Yeah I've had girls like me a lot but never the ones that I liked back, except maybe one or two but I was totally unaware at the time ;D

Probably my favorite euphemism ever for "need to bone." Not to sound vulgar with regards to your girlfriend ArchLimit,

 

Np, I'm glad anybody's willing to read that long ass post.

D0000d, that sucks SOO much! I HATE it when that happens. I think you can empathize. In short, I had a drop dead gorgeous blonde who was a diehard BLIZZARD fan who I hung out with "as friends" for all of freshman college and two years later, after she got with some new guy, asked me why I never made a move on her cuz she was waiting. I seriously wanted to beat my face in....

D00d, be confident, grow a pair, and ask the girl. Just do it, it's really not even that humiliating and they love the attention. If it's not reciprocated then just walk away and be cool. Seriously the benefits you might reap is SO worth it. Okay that's the last bit of my two cents.

I'm done. Oh, and yea I've got a lot of euphemisms for vulgar behavior because I've learned how to be a perv with efficiency and grace

 

hahahahaha hooray for being well-mannered pervs!

 

I've seen too many people waste their lives on love to actually bother. Doesn't mean it won't happen in the future... just not... not now. I have school to worry about, in addition to finishing my novel (which just... won't... FINISH (AARRGHHH)).

Also, a lot of girls in my age are... lacking maturity, wisdom-wise. Everyone says i was born a 2nd generation kid, and to be honest some times spending time with peeps in my age is like... watching children play. Yikes.

Oh well.

 

No SirBaron, I totally get what you mean. I think you've got a good head on u'r shoulders with the perspective you've got. I don't think you are missing out too much. I mean, I don't suggest you turn into a hermetically sealed cynic, but at the same time I don't find too much enjoyment in hanging out with most kids my own age. At least not back in high school anyway.

 

i agree. not to be arrogant but sometimes my intellect surpasses those with which I hang. I think I'm more mature (in some ways, at least) than a lot of people my age


example: this one time i made a mix cd for someone, and I called it the red mix, and put a sickle and hammer on the cover, and made it red, etc (she had red hair) I gave it to her and she didn't get it. I was disappointed to say the least. ;D

 

Haha, good one Nikzad. I think maturity in people past their "age group" does sometimes come at the price of an air of "loneliness." I think we honestly sometimes take pride in our thoughts and ideas, and really feel like its severed pretty brutally when some party doll responds to u'r statement, "So Jessica, I was thinking the other day that life is probably more about loving others more than yourself, because that's how the world might turn out better in the end," with "Oh, yea! I know, cuz like, Timmy called yesterday and I was like, I SO love you more than you love me, and he totally just wanted to go drink 'n I so I was called my girls up cuz they love me more."

That.... that one kills me every time... *sigh*

 

pfffftttt hahahahahaha oh jeez, too true man, too true...

anyone ever seen Orange County? the part where he meets the girl Faulkner (I think) in the park, then she invites him to a party? soooooo much like what ArchLimit just said

 

ok archlimit, I have been going out with my girlfriend for 4 years. Do you suggest that we take a break from each other for a year to experience other people?

 

lol the Love-Line with ArchLimit...weekdays from 1-2 on starcraft2forum.org
(no offense DW)

 

Haha!

Daygo, I really don't know u'r situation well enough to give you a do or dont do kind of advice. 4 years though, I think from personal experience that is definitely long enough to surpass that "trial" period. I'd say if you're happy with her stick with her. I mean, what I meant was sorta like, if you've only known each other for a year tops, and are still young, there is no shame or harm in letting each other go for awhile until you "find yourselves." But if u've already got 4 years going then you two are obviously already quite grounded and whatever changed in u'r personal lives have left you still very in love with each other. Which sounds to me like a wonderful thing.

So off the top of my head I'd say naw, stick with her. But dun sue me nor this forum if she turns out to be an axe murderer one day. That's not going to be my problem, haha

 

Haha!  ;D She is not an axe murderer... i hope  :-\

In all seriousness, I love my girlfriend. we have already been through ALOT and I am very happy with her and she is very happy with me. i always say that we are both very lucky that we find one another at such a young age. (we were 17!) After the two year mark we went through rough struggles. Now, things are only getting better! We have been through the long distance/separation of college and made it through. we trust one another very much, which IMO, is the most important thing to build in a relationship from day one.

Anywho, I was just wondering your thoughts archlimit, thanks for sharing ur wisdom!

 

I think I have bad luck with chicks. I have lots of family in California, so we're always visiting. Every time I go there, I get at least a couple of numbers and email addresses. But in my home state? Nada!! Ugh. Frustrating.



PS: The poll makes me feel good, 9 to 9 at the moment. It doesn't make me feel like we're all nerds who will never get any, and it doesn't make me feel like I'm a black sheep.

 

Well, currently I'm on the verge of having a girlfriend. She's actually about a year older than me, but I've always found myself a lot more comfortable around ppl older than me as opposed to ppl my same age. I've been told that my thought process and maturity is at least about 5 years older than my age. That doesn't mean I don't know how to have fun and chill though.

Well anyway, I get annoyed with girls my own age, which is why I haven't been too eager to find one until now. And she is one of the most GORGEOUS girls I've ever seen! It's actually kinda weird...I've never attempted to get a girl before, but for some reason I know exactly what to say and how to be calm and stuff...I think it's because certain TV shows and movies actually have useful stuff to know

Anyways, what I would say in advice, just think of the girls as human. As a quote from Greek, "You see girls as magical creatures...unicorns...with breasts! You just gotta know that they are human just like you...and they want YOU!" (Hehe...yet another thing I learn from TV ;D)

 

Nah, that's not gonna happen. I've got several female friends who despite their... excuse the word, "inferiority", are cool to hang out with. Although it get's too much sometimes (yuck...) - those times i spend with older relatives or people... here, as an example.

I could explain what i meant with "people wasting their lives on love":
I had a friend in my age some time ago who previously had a real rough childhood. I'm 16 by the way, and this was about 2.5 years ago...
Anyways, he got into a state of emotional turmoil, and started dating girls on a daily basis, forming relationships here and there, cheating, etc. He even made a girl 5 years his senior pregnant (she aborted, luckily for him - 14 year old father = NOT COOL).
Then he started asking me for help (they all do, quite annoying) since i am so "wise" (bah...) and i just told him that's he was pathetic and that he should grow up. Since then i haven't heard of him, and i really don't bother.

What i despise with my generation is this crappy emotional crisis everyone seems to be going through at some point. I dunno about me, but judging by the fact everyone calls me a 2nd gen. kid (for you who doesn't know what this means - 1: a grown mind in the body of a kid. 2: a rapidly maturing mind stuck in a normal-maturing body) must indicate i skipped that. Lucky me. If there's something i'm absolutely revolted by, it's excessive, self-harming emotions.
And unfortunately, a big majority of kids (primarily females) just happen to devote themselves to these emotions, and i cannot stand it.

To them, it's all about the world being cruel, and either everyone loves you or hates you or something is that, or that is something... it's the friggin shifting from white to black and reverse... rollercoaster feelings.
I'm kind just standing on the ground with my two feet, shrouded in a massive, swallowing... grayishness.
Where my buddies could say "oh for CHRIST SAKE, <insert sexy female name> why won't you be with me?" i'd probably be "going? ok. not coming back. cool. Cya. taking my SC2 disc? NO UR NOT"

Bah, enough of my rant. I always have difficulties explaining this to people.

Christ, i am all too familiar with this... at a point i stopped trying to joke when with my buddies, because i had to explain the jokes for them to understand.

 

Well my friends i think this topic is turn to hot well, my love life ohh i started to feel love when i was in 4rth year well, im not sure if it is a Love, but may be a puppy Love, only the girl is very cute she is very thoughtful oh ithink a perfect girl for me, but i realized that study first before that thing well im so frustrated when it comes to a love life,, well actually until now i still love her but still she does'nt knew it because im so shy to tell her my true feelings,,, somebody give me advice,, now im in 2nd year college,, and i dont know now where is she,, but im still in Love with her :-/

 

SirBaron...I think you and me might just have the exact same persona

I hate how our generation is (I'm 15, turning 16 in January btw) is so caught up in their emotions, and wishing that their lives really WERE horrible, rough childhoods. I myself have been told, just like you, that my mind is far more developed than even some 20 yr olds. Which I think is why like I said, I feel more comfortable around ppl older than me.

I just wanna live my life, not get caught up in a bunch of this crap, and enjoy my time while I have it instead of having to worry about someone else's problems.

But then again, if there's someone that I could enjoy being around (and being hot also helps ) I don't mind having a girlfriend or such...just as long as I enjoy her company and she enjoys my company, I'm cool.

Exactly! One of my biggest requirements in either a friendship/relationship is that the other person has a decent understanding of smart humor. I always feel so ashamed of the world when ppl don't get stuff like that...

 

@Protosscommander: Just go ahead tell her. The sky won't come down over your ears, that's for sure. But don't overdo it either.

@Itsmyship: I think the proper term is "emotionally down to earth". Unstable emotions make you fly, and emotions sometimes makes you crash. I don't like to fly, and i certainly do not like to crash.