sex before marriage?

Marriage should be abolished.

 

Good points niner.

And what the hell, it says that light was the last to post, but drie was the last (before this one).

 

Then he posted before after you loaded the page saying GM_K was the last poster.

 

Uh no, it said that for half an hour as I sat here reloading and seeing that drie was the last to post.

 

I think the idea of waiting until marriage to have sex is rather silly. I think one should wait until they're ready, when ever that is. But marrige?

Religious reasons aside (which may be impossible when dealing with marrige, seeing as how it is holy matrimony) what is the purpose of not having sex until marrige? Is it to wait until both partners are committed? if that is the case, then it all hinges on how serious you consider sex to be. This policy makes it sound like the be-all end-all last step to a relationship, which i don't think it is at all.

Physicality it is as part of any relationship as anything else. From holding hands to the pile driver i think each couple should decided when and how physical they want to be.
the end.

 

im against it due to morals...
because sex has a % chance of ruining a relationship

and

the best present you can give to your spouse after marriage is your virginity

AND

this may sound retro,
but...

i remember a time when love was pure
and that the bond of that love will only be strengthened
by commitment to spend eternity with each other...
and sealing it with the act of making love

but since sex before marriage is widely accepted into society,
that kind of outlook on sex as a act of TRUE love is slowly starting to fade away

(yes, i know, i know, this coming from a hent-lord)

 

Isn't it better to ruin a pre-marriage relationship then?

 

Yes.

 

because when you are married, you are now committed to have sex
so there is no (or maybe very little) % chance of ruining the marriage

 

That makes little sense. First off, there are many things that have a percent-chance of ruining a relationship - not just sex (money, addiction, parents, etc. etc.). Secondly, things that have a percent-chance of ruining a relationship are not magically nullified by marriage. Yes, generally in a marriage couples work a little harder to make the relationship work, but to be honest any good relationship already has that, or they have no business getting married. Sex is exactly the same - if a couple isn't willing to work at bettering the sexual aspects of their relationship, the relationship won't last - whether or not they are married.

Not to mention that it is always better to find out relationship-killers before one is married. For instance, if Sally wants ten kids, and Joe wants zero, they better learn that before taking the next step or their marriage is doomed. Sex is similar.

Now that said, sex is not entirely the same, as a couple truly in love that is having trouble with the physical aspects of their relationship would surely work to get better (and generally they succeed). However, there are some cases where two people are just sexually incompatible. Like with kids, money, etc., it'd be better to find out before they were married.

Again though, I have no problems with anybody's decision to wait. Sex between two people who are truly in love will almost always be very good (at least eventually). I am just of the opinion that one should have sex when he/she is ready - whenever that may be. He/she just needs to really be sure that they are truly ready.

 

Well technically, if you have sex before marriage, you wont necessarily get an STD or get pregnant. Especially if you're having intercourse with the person you love and decide to be responsible with proper protection. Those who get an STD usually are those who have multiple partners or choose to live with the STD along side of their partner.

I'm assuming we are discussing about sex with potential spouse right? If so, I see no reason to not want to. I believe in limitation, restraining until you are ready, or sureness of your partner.

 

That gives me an idea for a new thread.

 

then act like me and make it

 

I just did you nub.

 

Or maybe you guys can actually contribute instead of posting one liners all the time. P

To get back on topic, I am kinda 50/50 on this idea as well. I beleive sex such be treated as an inimate and lovinng way to express your love to someone you really care about which means you should proably be married before you do it and be prepared for the consquences. That aside it can be somewhat difficult when you have the natural sexual urges our bodies do. I think you should try to resist these as much as possible until you know you really do care for the person and I think there are differences between lustful sex and loving sex.

 

I did contribute, read the rest of the damned thread chef.

If you are 50/50, then ask yourself, if there was someone there for you, and you really liked this person, and you weren't married, would you sleep with them?

 

I was just joking darkone, no need to start swearing at me 0.0, sorry if I angered you though.

Anyway, to answer that question honestly I probably would as long as I believed I really loved and cared for them. I don't think you have to be married to someone to love them deeply and sex is part of expressing that love. However you should be prepared for any of the consequences that may end up happening.